What’s Limiting You?

The Oxford English Dictionary defines a ‘belief’ as:

“an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof”

People all around the world hold strong beliefs without requiring any proof as to whether they are actually factual or not!

Holding these beliefs is enough to influence the way we think, feel and act. This is great when a belief is positive and helps us make decisions and take action that benefits us, but when our belief system prevents us from living the life we really want or from moving forward they become limiting beliefs – and they can end up costing us jobs, opportunities, even love or our own health.

Limiting beliefs give you an excuse for not making decisions, changes or choices you might want to.

How many of these common limiting beliefs have you heard?

  • I’d love to [insert applicable dream here], but I don’t have the money/ideas/resources!
  • I don’t have the energy! ~ When did we develop the idea that energy has to be stored or saved before it runs out?  Energy is an endless resource that makes up, and flows through every object, person, plant and animal on the planet!
  • I don’t have the time, I’m far too busy! ~ Newsflash: you have the same 24 hours each day that everyone else has. We apportion our time according to the importance or relevance we place on the task at hand. How many times have you had ‘absolutely no time’, but when something really important crops up you find a slot for it?
  • My [insert family member here] was broke/overweight/not smart so it’s in my family – I’m bound to follow suit! ~ Uh no, YOU shape your own future so decide what YOU want for yourself and start moving towards it today!

Where do our beliefs come from?

Your beliefs originated from a number of sources throughout your life. They could be the opinions of a family member, comments from friends or lessons taught by our teachers. You may have formed your own beliefs from incidents, patterns or even social media.

Exercise 1:

Take a notepad and write down three of your own beliefs that give you a reason or excuse not to do/become/change something in your life – be honest with yourself. How have these beliefs held you back? What have they already cost you?

Take each belief in turn and ask yourself:

  • Where did this belief come from? Who told me this? Whose voice says these words in my head?
  • Is that person living the life you want to live? Are they carving out their dream career? Are they the healthiest, fittest, strongest version of themselves?
  • If they are, that’s great! You can learn by their example; find out what they are doing to create this and replicate it for yourself to create the changes you want to see in that area.
  • If they are NOT living ‘The Ideal’ then why are you giving any power to what they have told you? What reason do you have for choosing to believe that their opinion is the correct one or is more valid than your own?
  • Do you want to continue believing this? If a belief is not benefitting you, serving you and you don’t want to hold it to be true any longer then good news! You can choose to reject it! Now that you’re aware of some of your limiting beliefs, you can turn them off as easily as you turned them on. And this is how:

Re-programming your belief system:

Step One

Congratulations! You have already taken the first step in combatting your limiting beliefs! That step was in realising that you have them – and in wanting to change them. So now you can get rid of them.

Step Two

You need to replace your old limiting beliefs with new empowering ones. For example:

Old Belief:   Becomes:
I’d love to start my own business but I don’t have the resources/ideas It is my goal to start my own successful, thriving business so I will research what I need and will enlist the help of those in the know to help me get really clear on what service/product I want to provide to add value to others.
I don’t have the energy I have an unlimited amount of energy at my disposal, I feel revitalised and I can push myself further than ever before.
I don’t have the time, I’m far too busy If this really matters to me, I will make this a priority and I will allocate the time.
My relative was broke/overweight/not smart so I’m also destined for this I am not my relative. I do not make the same choices as them, I have not lived the same life as them – I am my own person and I alone decide what actions to take in my life.

Exercise 2:

Take your list of three limiting beliefs you wrote down earlier. Alongside each one, write down your new and improved empowering version. If you get stuck, it helps to think that often, the new belief is the exact opposite of the old one.

Now USE the new beliefs!

Whenever you hear the old familiar voices creeping up, repeat your new belief to yourself – or even better, out loud – as many times as you need to in order to over-write that old voice.

It doesn’t matter if you feel self-conscious at first, or if you catch yourself thinking “this is ridiculous, how is this supposed to change anything”? The more you use, think and repeat the new beliefs, the stronger they will get. Eventually the new beliefs will take root and will anchor where the old ones used to be. Your new belief system will have emerged and you will be making strides toward those changes you want to see.

Remember; you can choose your belief system – so make sure it’s one that works for you and helps you create a strong, empowering voice to support you and drive you to live the VERY BEST life you can!

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